The lessons we are given
First, I will have to say that identifying what are your own lessons you came here to learn about is often not easy to identify from all the everyday things that make life less than smooth.
This in itself is a challenge. But as you go, you may find repeating situations often enough to assume it a sign to take a long look at why is this going on.
For me, I got to that point over and over, until last year I got support for myself. Because you can't really change someone else's behavior. That is their lesson.
I did the emotional clearing, but as we went along, for all my understanding of clearing, the other person has narcissistic tendency's. Which meant controlling, drama, just hard for me. And unhealthy.
And Draining, tremendously. I learned that you have to detach, be cordial, congenial, and then walk away. Most narcissistic personalities will not change in this lifetime.
So I do just that. And happy for it. But I also keep detaching those energetic cords we form with other people by interacting. You can be very specific whose cord you are removing.
You can ask the Arch Angels, your guides, personal angels to do it for you. Or you can do it yourself, using a crystal, scissors or just a butter knife, or ceremonial tool. Or take your hands and yank that cord and toss it away from your solar plexus.
Bear in mind you are very specific about who you are cutting off. Do it again each time you start to feel angry, upset, or think Too much about them. But do not lapse on this part for your own sake. Afterwards, smudge yourself, your home, etc. keep at it till you can go without thinking of the one you cut the cord of and your home feels peaceful.
A great deal of narcissists are very much energy vampires, either knowingly, or so addicted to feeding off the energy that comes from their bad behavior, that they cannot feel normal without it.
Energy vampires are very eager to lie, manipulate, do whatever it takes to give them emotional energy to feed from, negative energy they stirred up.
There are some very good books out there, authors, and recorded CDs on the subject. That is how prevalent energy vampires are. Many very good sites also to teach you, or send you to find help with narcissistic family members. You have to be the one to study and learn for yourself. They will not, will not change, it is very rare if it happens.
The havoc and hurt wrecked upon those around them most likely will never stop. And as I have found out from personal experience, no low to where it may go. Without remorse on their part. So protect yourself, draw up your shields of energy, and remove those cords after you walk away.
Call in the Light&Love to surround you, move on happy, love your own family, and be aware of any behaviors you may have that perpetuates negativity in your own life. And work on it. Make a change for the better.
Getting clear of those who perpetuate this in your life, whether family, co workers, or even a neighborhood, can be removal of a huge block to finding peace and happiness in your life.
This to me equates to one huge lesson, I had to learn. Overcoming my childhood conditioning, of being the big sister, helping my younger siblings out, no matter what. And putting up with an incredible amount of really bad behavior out of two of them. Plus never being able to talk about it.
Pretending is never going to get you anywhere out of a bad situation. I've been there.
I accept there will never be any constructive dialogue with my family about the dynamics, what goes on, how can we all work to improve our relationships. This is the reality of life here. We are all working at different levels, these lessons. So I accept it as it is, but do not have to have all of it in my life.
This learning, leaving it out and letting it go has been the biggest lesson for me. And there have been some hard ones. So moving forward🕊
This in itself is a challenge. But as you go, you may find repeating situations often enough to assume it a sign to take a long look at why is this going on.
For me, I got to that point over and over, until last year I got support for myself. Because you can't really change someone else's behavior. That is their lesson.
I did the emotional clearing, but as we went along, for all my understanding of clearing, the other person has narcissistic tendency's. Which meant controlling, drama, just hard for me. And unhealthy.
And Draining, tremendously. I learned that you have to detach, be cordial, congenial, and then walk away. Most narcissistic personalities will not change in this lifetime.
So I do just that. And happy for it. But I also keep detaching those energetic cords we form with other people by interacting. You can be very specific whose cord you are removing.
You can ask the Arch Angels, your guides, personal angels to do it for you. Or you can do it yourself, using a crystal, scissors or just a butter knife, or ceremonial tool. Or take your hands and yank that cord and toss it away from your solar plexus.
Bear in mind you are very specific about who you are cutting off. Do it again each time you start to feel angry, upset, or think Too much about them. But do not lapse on this part for your own sake. Afterwards, smudge yourself, your home, etc. keep at it till you can go without thinking of the one you cut the cord of and your home feels peaceful.
A great deal of narcissists are very much energy vampires, either knowingly, or so addicted to feeding off the energy that comes from their bad behavior, that they cannot feel normal without it.
Energy vampires are very eager to lie, manipulate, do whatever it takes to give them emotional energy to feed from, negative energy they stirred up.
There are some very good books out there, authors, and recorded CDs on the subject. That is how prevalent energy vampires are. Many very good sites also to teach you, or send you to find help with narcissistic family members. You have to be the one to study and learn for yourself. They will not, will not change, it is very rare if it happens.
The havoc and hurt wrecked upon those around them most likely will never stop. And as I have found out from personal experience, no low to where it may go. Without remorse on their part. So protect yourself, draw up your shields of energy, and remove those cords after you walk away.
Call in the Light&Love to surround you, move on happy, love your own family, and be aware of any behaviors you may have that perpetuates negativity in your own life. And work on it. Make a change for the better.
Getting clear of those who perpetuate this in your life, whether family, co workers, or even a neighborhood, can be removal of a huge block to finding peace and happiness in your life.
This to me equates to one huge lesson, I had to learn. Overcoming my childhood conditioning, of being the big sister, helping my younger siblings out, no matter what. And putting up with an incredible amount of really bad behavior out of two of them. Plus never being able to talk about it.
Pretending is never going to get you anywhere out of a bad situation. I've been there.
I accept there will never be any constructive dialogue with my family about the dynamics, what goes on, how can we all work to improve our relationships. This is the reality of life here. We are all working at different levels, these lessons. So I accept it as it is, but do not have to have all of it in my life.
This learning, leaving it out and letting it go has been the biggest lesson for me. And there have been some hard ones. So moving forward🕊
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