The cult of victimhood, or how not to be one
Every day we all hear some story from the news on something that happens to an innocent person.
Granted some things just occur quickly, like a plant crash, car accident, what have you, and can be hard to
avoid.
But other things do require that someone somewhere is not paying attention to the things going on around them, not giving the attention and effort before hand to prevent certain occurances from taking place.
Or on the other hand, some people seem to always be at the focal point to become a victim. Jumping in to a situation with others without a thought about the outcome.
Either conciously or subconciously.
There is a solution, try to develop your analytical skills. Viewing your surroundings, where are you at that point, where are your childrens, are they secure and safe? Are you in a secure and safe location as you drive down a street at midnight in a bad neighborhood? Get my take here?
Scan, analyse, and then feel.
Are you getting a strange feeling in your gut about this guy who is trying to sell you on some scheme to make lots of money, or send money to your relative in trouble, or? Take a moment and feel yourself.
Are you feeling uneasy about where you are, maybe a flight or fight surge of adrenaline coming into play.
For the most part, a lot of it is pure instinct. We are not above animals in our physiology here. We have been so cut off from our connectedness to all other life on this planet, that we tend to disregard what our bodies are telling us. As if we are very superior and being illogical if we act on what our own senses say to us.
So as with all things subverted by our modern existence, we somehow have become a culture of victims.
We enter into relationships, all the while feeling this isn't going to work, but the person is so sexy. We marry them, and waste a bit more of our years trying to fix a horrible relationshiop, instead of walking away. Dragging our victimhood with us, then diving into a similiar relationship. Unless we stop and evaluate. Which happens.
People who do look into themselves and see what they were attracted to in the first place was not right in the long run for them. That it brought out the worst behavior in theirselves, and that they do not want to have that kind of relationship full of ups and downs again.
But overall in this day and age, there are huge amounts of people playing the victimhood sweepstakes.
On and on it goes. With all the emotional debris trailing along. And self honesty in last place.
Just like walking down a dangerous street at dark, use your instincts. Feel how you know things, get past the sex, how yes some people will be there for just that. But just remember that they may not be one who you want to try and make a home with. Some people never settle down, ever.
We have all experienced this kind of relationship, some better, some worse. And you need to look at why you find each and every train wreck to come your own way the one you want to be with . People don't change unless they want to.
Full on use of what you have been given, to access the other person, place, and yes even a thing, can save you a world of grief later on. Doesn't mean you need to shut yourself up and hide you and your kids away either. Just learn to use what you have, develop your senses, and then discern the facts clearly.
Maybe not romantic, but neither is a heartbreak.
I automatically back away from someone who is trying to sell something and gets too close, and talks too fast. This stepping into my own energy field is done either to confuse or overwhelm, and is a tactic I have seen in used car salesmen once too often.
Granted some things just occur quickly, like a plant crash, car accident, what have you, and can be hard to
avoid.
But other things do require that someone somewhere is not paying attention to the things going on around them, not giving the attention and effort before hand to prevent certain occurances from taking place.
Or on the other hand, some people seem to always be at the focal point to become a victim. Jumping in to a situation with others without a thought about the outcome.
Either conciously or subconciously.
There is a solution, try to develop your analytical skills. Viewing your surroundings, where are you at that point, where are your childrens, are they secure and safe? Are you in a secure and safe location as you drive down a street at midnight in a bad neighborhood? Get my take here?
Scan, analyse, and then feel.
Are you getting a strange feeling in your gut about this guy who is trying to sell you on some scheme to make lots of money, or send money to your relative in trouble, or? Take a moment and feel yourself.
Are you feeling uneasy about where you are, maybe a flight or fight surge of adrenaline coming into play.
For the most part, a lot of it is pure instinct. We are not above animals in our physiology here. We have been so cut off from our connectedness to all other life on this planet, that we tend to disregard what our bodies are telling us. As if we are very superior and being illogical if we act on what our own senses say to us.
So as with all things subverted by our modern existence, we somehow have become a culture of victims.
We enter into relationships, all the while feeling this isn't going to work, but the person is so sexy. We marry them, and waste a bit more of our years trying to fix a horrible relationshiop, instead of walking away. Dragging our victimhood with us, then diving into a similiar relationship. Unless we stop and evaluate. Which happens.
People who do look into themselves and see what they were attracted to in the first place was not right in the long run for them. That it brought out the worst behavior in theirselves, and that they do not want to have that kind of relationship full of ups and downs again.
But overall in this day and age, there are huge amounts of people playing the victimhood sweepstakes.
On and on it goes. With all the emotional debris trailing along. And self honesty in last place.
Just like walking down a dangerous street at dark, use your instincts. Feel how you know things, get past the sex, how yes some people will be there for just that. But just remember that they may not be one who you want to try and make a home with. Some people never settle down, ever.
We have all experienced this kind of relationship, some better, some worse. And you need to look at why you find each and every train wreck to come your own way the one you want to be with . People don't change unless they want to.
Full on use of what you have been given, to access the other person, place, and yes even a thing, can save you a world of grief later on. Doesn't mean you need to shut yourself up and hide you and your kids away either. Just learn to use what you have, develop your senses, and then discern the facts clearly.
Maybe not romantic, but neither is a heartbreak.
I automatically back away from someone who is trying to sell something and gets too close, and talks too fast. This stepping into my own energy field is done either to confuse or overwhelm, and is a tactic I have seen in used car salesmen once too often.
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