Shifting your frustration into compassion
The guides dictated that last exercise, it was easy and flowing for them to simply tell me what to write.
This next, no. This me and them hashing this out. As I previously stated, we had a discussion over learning the difference between forgiveness and compassion.
For me, it felt like tail chasing for a while.
And as I said, getting more insight into what it was I am dealing with, well helped. Then reading
recommended books by various professionals in the field.
It gives a lot to think about, hugely sobering to understand there won't be change on the other side. They are not capable of it , do not care, only want to win, be in control, use emotional blackmail, and dirty tactics every chance they get.
It was shown to me now that my blinders are off, I may find myself with sobering dilemma.
How do I proceed from here. I still love my family, but I can never allow myself to be mired into the things that go on.
Some things, I am working to let go, in the middle of doing right now. Emotional clearing takes time, but each time it lifts more out. Other things are easier, like my father's story of beating me on the legs with a stick as a toddler.
Sounds odd, but I know he sees it from a perspective not mine. He was raised being razor strapped out behind the barn when he was naughty as a child. Common child rearing treatment in the 1930's& 40's.
And there was alcohol involved, no excuse, just a fact. Seems to be my family can't be all together without it.
And mostly they laugh, but the ones who drink too much bring out the manipulation tactics in those who find easy prey. Under the guise of fun and laughing, it gets slipped in.
So I am watching, seeing this go on, and feeling sorry for all of them. There is no open, booze free discussions about the family dynamic. Once there was when my mother was dying, under the guidance of a consular. I only came in right at the end. Having been home to take care of my animals. There was drama created, feelings hurt. I felt sorry for the grief consular.
Feeling sorry doesn't cut it. I could see and feel the negative energy and hurt feelings as soon as I stepped in the house, the woman had no idea what she was dealing with.
I have very little desire to untangle that knot lately. None at all lately.
Tho it helped me see a lot, so I know it isn't me. It was just a forum for the dysfunctions to come out.
I do feel it would be a bad idea for me to even try. Those of you experiencing this too in your family unit may understand this. You begin to understand how they will all turn on you.
You are the one with the problem, and from your place you wonder if you really know any of them at all.
So how the hell does this benefit you. Simply put, they are stuck not you, remember that.
Ask the guides, higher power,Angels what ever you have a faith in a higher good power to start waking them up. Then see them surrounded with white light, see them with their eyes shut as the light begins to crystallize around them. Ask that soon in time they awaken with new eyes filled with the universal light of truth. Then leave them there.
As for the mundane interactions, simply remember they are being worked on by a higher power. You have to be observant, do not get hooked into anything, choose to minimize your topics, be in the present, straightforward, then go home as soon as you can, or just leave under the need for fresh air, yada. Practice self love here. As you leave send love from your heart to them, they are being looked after.
This next, no. This me and them hashing this out. As I previously stated, we had a discussion over learning the difference between forgiveness and compassion.
For me, it felt like tail chasing for a while.
And as I said, getting more insight into what it was I am dealing with, well helped. Then reading
recommended books by various professionals in the field.
It gives a lot to think about, hugely sobering to understand there won't be change on the other side. They are not capable of it , do not care, only want to win, be in control, use emotional blackmail, and dirty tactics every chance they get.
It was shown to me now that my blinders are off, I may find myself with sobering dilemma.
How do I proceed from here. I still love my family, but I can never allow myself to be mired into the things that go on.
Some things, I am working to let go, in the middle of doing right now. Emotional clearing takes time, but each time it lifts more out. Other things are easier, like my father's story of beating me on the legs with a stick as a toddler.
Sounds odd, but I know he sees it from a perspective not mine. He was raised being razor strapped out behind the barn when he was naughty as a child. Common child rearing treatment in the 1930's& 40's.
And there was alcohol involved, no excuse, just a fact. Seems to be my family can't be all together without it.
And mostly they laugh, but the ones who drink too much bring out the manipulation tactics in those who find easy prey. Under the guise of fun and laughing, it gets slipped in.
So I am watching, seeing this go on, and feeling sorry for all of them. There is no open, booze free discussions about the family dynamic. Once there was when my mother was dying, under the guidance of a consular. I only came in right at the end. Having been home to take care of my animals. There was drama created, feelings hurt. I felt sorry for the grief consular.
Feeling sorry doesn't cut it. I could see and feel the negative energy and hurt feelings as soon as I stepped in the house, the woman had no idea what she was dealing with.
I have very little desire to untangle that knot lately. None at all lately.
Tho it helped me see a lot, so I know it isn't me. It was just a forum for the dysfunctions to come out.
I do feel it would be a bad idea for me to even try. Those of you experiencing this too in your family unit may understand this. You begin to understand how they will all turn on you.
You are the one with the problem, and from your place you wonder if you really know any of them at all.
So how the hell does this benefit you. Simply put, they are stuck not you, remember that.
Ask the guides, higher power,Angels what ever you have a faith in a higher good power to start waking them up. Then see them surrounded with white light, see them with their eyes shut as the light begins to crystallize around them. Ask that soon in time they awaken with new eyes filled with the universal light of truth. Then leave them there.
As for the mundane interactions, simply remember they are being worked on by a higher power. You have to be observant, do not get hooked into anything, choose to minimize your topics, be in the present, straightforward, then go home as soon as you can, or just leave under the need for fresh air, yada. Practice self love here. As you leave send love from your heart to them, they are being looked after.
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